When you watch a move the second time, you might hear somethings you didn’t hear the first time you watched it. So I was ‘re-watched’ Casino Royale, yesterday night when a line rang a bell. Bond and his girl Vesper just met, were sizing up themselves. I don’t remember the exact lines, but Vesper said something like…. Bond thought / treated his women like disposable pleasures rather than profitable pursuits. For a movie review, click here.
I remembered my LoveNotes series, 2009, the many questions I asked, the varying responses I got, etc. The debate is still on whether / if Marriage is an achievement, but presently, I’m leaning with Favored Girl’s response:
Marriage is not an achievement, far from it. Although in our culture it is almost a do or die affair and the pressure starts to build on young people once they turn twenty. It is a desirable thing but many people don’t stop to think – “am I really ready?” , they just get married because everybody around them is doing so.
On the married couples always giving advice – it comes with the territory – lol. Like Kafo said, newly weds are just figuring things out and that journey of discovery is so exciting that they can’t help talking about it all the time. As for the older couple – they feel they have seen it all, so they must educate other “inexperienced” people. Listen politely when they babble on around you, for one day you too will do the same thing to some poor younger cousin….
So I want to ask, and please lets discuss:
- are women disposable pleasures or profitable pursuits? with regards to the Nigerian Cultural “I must get married” by all means…….. and vice-versa.
- what would make a man treat a woman like a disposable pleasure or a profitable pleasure?, considering that ‘He that findeth a wife findeth a good thing’…read here. When does a man or woman become a disposable pleasure?
Here is my own answer to the question: women are neither disposable pleasures or profitable pursuits. They are just women.
The other day, I was listening to a radio program and a woman(wife) lamented about how her husband “now hates her” because she cannot have children. According to her, she knew he loved her at the start of their relationship: before they got married and after the marriage; but now, some years gone past and she cannot have children, she has unfortunately realized otherwise.
Now its time for you to answer the question:
Guys: are women disposable pleasures or profitable pursuits?
Girls: are men disposable pleasures or profitable pursuits?