AROWOLO KOLADE LUKMAN stabs his wife to death and cuts her into pieces?

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When 30-year-old Akolade Arowolo and Titilayo tied the knot in November 2008, there was merrymaking as families, friends and well-wishers joined them to celebrate what appeared like true love. Many unmarried young men and women, who graced the occasion, wished they were in the shoes of the couple.

After a while, it was learnt that the couple had a baby girl. Both families and well-wishers were on hand to share the joy of the arrival of the baby with Akolade and Titilayo.

However, on Friday, it was with rude shock and disbelief that the residents of Aswani area of Isolo, Lagos where the couple lived, received the news that Titilayo had been stabbed in the chest and her body mutilated by her husband.

The question on everybody’s lips was: what could have gone wrong? Curious enough, Titilayo was murdered on her husband’s 30th birthday.

When PUNCH METRO spoke with a former classmate of Akolade in the University of Lagos, he said Akolade battered his wife on several occasions because he was frustrated. Akolade’s classmate, who craved anonymity, suspected that he (Akolade) was drunk and stabbed her to death on the day of the incident.

He said, “Arowolo lost his job about two years ago. Titilayo had been sustaining the family with her salaries. I heard he beat her, but she did not tell her relatives. She however confided in one of her colleagues.

“She got home one day and saw that he had sold her car. When she confronted him, he said he needed money. It strained their marriage for a while and she left the house. But she later went back.”

It was learnt that Titilayo, an employee of Skye Bank, Marina, confided in one of her colleagues that her marriage was undergoing challenges but was reluctant to leave because she did not want her daughter to be raised in a broken home.

Some of Akolade’s colleagues at the Federal Government College, Ijankin, Lagos, in 1998, who did not want their names to be mentioned because of the sensitivity of the case, described him as an easy going person, “who does not meddle in other people’s affairs.”

One of his colleagues, who gave his name simply as Tayo, after much pressure by our correspondent, said, “Arowolo was ahead of me for a year in Ijanikin. Sometimes he would be absent from school for a whole term and you would not even notice because he never got into trouble and never kept many friends.”

PUNCH METRO gathered that although Akolade was not gainfully employed, he was running a company registered as ‘Auditing Business’ and functioned as both the auditor and the Chief Executive Officer. Despite this, it was learnt that Titilayo was solely responsible for the upkeep of the family and this frequently caused friction between the couple.

One of Titilayo’s colleagues in the office, who craved anonymity said, “ Last Friday, she (Titilayo) started her leave and informed her parents she would be coming over for the weekend because her father lives in Ifako while she lived in Isolo with her husband. She was the one that even paid the house rent. She paid about N1.3m recently.

“When her relatives didn’t hear from her again, they called her phone several times but she didn’t pick her calls. Later, her husband called back to say they had a small misunderstanding, which had been sorted out.

“They asked to speak with her, but he said she was busy and would call back later. But they didn’t hear from them again. The neighbours however saw her husband jump through the window with blood stains and drove off. But since there was no screaming from the apartment or any noise to suggest they were quarrelling, the neighbours thought all was well.”

PUNCH METRO gathered that Titilayo’s body was discovered two days later with a knife still in her neck. She was stabbed severally in the face and chest.

When contacted, the Police Public Relations Officer, Mr. Samuel Jinadu, said he was not aware of the incident and asked that he should be given more time to find out.

But when he was called two hours later, he said, “You still have to give me more time because I just left a meeting now.”

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there are so many bits of information about the abov, but one thing is clear: this Kolade guy is really sick.

He killed his wife on his birthday. Why on his birthday? for get-rich-quick ritual purposes: the man who stabbed his wife to death on his birthday.

His wife could afford to pay NGN1.3million Naira as rent and yet Mr. Arowolo cannot be entrepreneural enough to get himself to work?

Is marriage really worthi it in giving one’s all for?

as of this writing, its like his Facebook page has been taken down: http://en-gb.facebook.com/kolade.arowolo – it shows “content currently unavailable – perhaps due to so many hits.

AROWOLO KOLADE LUKMAN is the name of this wretched man. I’m wondering what could have led him to this aweful fate:

  • frustration in his jobless condition? could a man be so frustrated as kiiling his wife and cutting her into pieces? really? in Nigeria?
  • jealousy
  • he is a confirmed drunk and wife beater – why dont ladies see all these signals before walking down the isle?
  • it was not his first time to beat her, why did she stay there?
  • the dead lady’s body wasnt discovered until 2-days later – this is part of the you are on your own attitude of the average Lagosian.

Titi, may your soul rest in Peace.

44 thoughts on “AROWOLO KOLADE LUKMAN stabs his wife to death and cuts her into pieces?

  1. ladies should open their eyes and see beyond their so called romantic LOVE. There are so many wolves clothed in human body. Arowolo is an example, Titi was quite unfortunate LADIES PLEASE WATCH AND PRAY.

  2. She should not have returned when she left the house. How can one stay in a house where she is being beaten regularly and give the excuse of staying because of a child they have together? Now that she is dead, won’t the child still suffer and even suffer more. Poor girl. May her soul rest in perfect peace and may the useless man never recover from this too.

  3. This is pure insanity…dat guy does not deserve a man hood…he needs to b be headed for the ill fated crime he committed, may the soul of the late wife rest in perfect peace amen.

  4. I am speechless because Kolade worked with me in 2005/2006 and never showed any sign that he could do this type of thing. He worked so well for two years until the contract we had for the job ended and everybody went his ways. He even told me that he had started his own consultancy when we saw about 3 years ago.

    If indeed Kolade did this to his wife then something had terribly gone wrong between when we last saw about 3 years ago and now.

    May his wife’s soul rest in perfect peace.

  5. This is a very sad and unfortunate happening, may God help our homes and every home that are still in this type of mess, may God establish His peace ther in Jesus name.

    Let us be prayerful and be watchful.

  6. may God save this Akolade Arowolo guy.This is actually painful but the truth is that we as men or women should learn from these stories.If jump into a wrong marriage you will be in that mess for years.I know when you trust God for a husband kor a wife,he will give you the best.

  7. My dear friend was killed by this man, he has been violent from the set-go. She complained several times to friends and family. But because she is fundamentally a gentle person, who sees the good in every one, she always gave him second chances. In january she spoke again of battery, even without provocation. Her only crime, is seeing the positive in even the worst of Nigerian men (Akolade). I have known her for almost 12 years, and her character has been astute. Lagos has lost a gem….

  8. i know Kolade at St. Francis Catholic Sec. sch. Idimu and then he went to Unilag. am as shocked as what i dont even know. Cos i saw this couple in 2010 January at Christ Church Gbabada where we all exchanged pleasantries.
    Oh God what went wrong with them? I hardly believe stories like this but this one is just to close to me.

  9. am still shocked about this…not kolade…we were classmates in St Francis Catholic Secondary sch…we were friends…i really dnt knw wat could have gone wrong…But God knows…May Titis gentle soul rest in Peace….

  10. “Love is blind”, so they say, but ladies, I tell you that true love is never blind – it sees and acts wisely before it is too late! Of all the men on earth, was this guy the only one Titi saw and decided to marry? Or was Titi just desperate to marry because nowadays everybody is marrying left, right and center? Is there pressure on you to get married? Think twice and don’t allow pressure to cloud your thoughts to make you think it is because you are “in love”, and that love is blind!

    To all the women out there, never get desperate to marry, and never be pushed into marriage by looking at and comparing yourself to others who are getting wedded! Open your eyes, there are really good, firm, disciplined, God-fearing, simple but intelligent and humble guys out there… BUT THEY ARE RARE & HARD to find, so just take your time, pray to God, open your eyes and don’t fall in love blindly!

    To get married and die can never be compared to staying single and alive! Stay alive ladies,… stay wise, and if you are in a relationship but often have quarrels or issues, then start advising yourself, because most often, the signs are on the wall before you marry – DON’T IGNORE THEM!

    …and if you are already married, and you are being abused, and you have seen or heard what happened to Titi…and you are reading this note I am writing, then start packing your stuff now….better leave that abusive guy, else…. (you just read what happened to another like you, don’t be fooled because you might be next!!).

    God bless!!

  11. just like i wrote and posted a note on ma facebook page few months ago bout abuse. U need to check it out and read cos it can do u a lit of gud. Ders no reason gud enof to make u stay in an abusive marriage. Cos once an abuser, always and abuser, iits like a drug. They crave for more.
    So open ur eyes, ur brain and think twice cos 2morow might be too late

  12. For no reason should any one kill,cant tell why he did but still he should be punished.

  13. It,s very unfortunate that it happened that way. But this guy (Akolaade) must go through extensive psychological test. ‘Cos I can see the guy is out of his senses. May the soul of Titilayo rest
    In perfect peace.

  14. Hi guys. I nid ur sincere advice. Am in a relationship going 2 4years now. My boyfrnd loves me or at least dats wat i tink. But one thing i knw 4 sure is dat he’s obsessed wit me. He misses me all d time. He cant stand me talking 2 a guy. He hates it. He just cant. D few times he has seen me talking to a guy..he wld start 2 abuse me n call me ashawo. He wld call me names n say dats how i live my life. We stay 2geda in d same room in d same hostel in skull. Although, i dint want us to live 2geda,he called me names n sed i was an ingrate n insulted me. To cut d long story short..he forced himself on me n we started living 2geda. He knows i dont cheat. Inshort,am a serious introvert n dont go out at all. My boyfrnd is highly insecure,jealous n just cant stand me talking 2 sum1 else. Recently,he called me on phone but i was on d line wit sum1 while he was on hold. Wen i called him bak he started 2 shout n asked who i was talking 2. I asked wat he meant but he just kept shouting dat who was i talking 2 wen he called. Again,last week,he called me n he was asking me where i was..he sed d place was too noisy n he continued 2 ask where i was. Truth is,i was rite der in our sitting room. It was d sound of d TV he heard. He later realised it n stopped asking where i was. My boyfrnd is consumed wit insecurity. I know he is very faithful to me. And he does anything i want for me. D thing is am rily a very beautiful girl bt d problem is am confused abt my relationship. I kip telling myself dat he gets angry n jealous bcz he loves me. I dont know if am wrong. But i bilive he loves me so much and wld neva cheat. Wat am scared of is his anger, jealousy n all dat. Weneva he gets jealous he starts to breathe very fast n u wld hear is breathe. But he loves me. I nid ur advice..tnx Hi guys. I nid ur sincere advice. Am in a relationship going 2 4years now. My boyfrnd loves me or at least dats wat i tink. But one thing i knw 4 sure is dat he’s obsessed wit me. He misses me all d time. He cant stand me talking 2 a guy. He hates it. He just cant. D few times he has seen me talking to a guy..he wld start 2 abuse me n call me ashawo. He wld call me names n say dats how i live my life. We stay 2geda in d same room in d same hostel in skull. Although, i dint want us to live 2geda,he called me names n sed i was an ingrate n insulted me. To cut d long story short..he forced himself on me n we started living 2geda. He knows i dont cheat. Inshort,am a serious introvert n dont go out at all. My boyfrnd is highly insecure,jealous n just cant stand me talking 2 sum1 else. Recently,he called me on phone but i was on d line wit sum1 while he was on hold. Wen i called him bak he started 2 shout n asked who i was talking 2. I asked wat he meant but he just kept shouting dat who was i talking 2 wen he called. Again,last week,he called me n he was asking me where i was..he sed d place was too noisy n he continued 2 ask where i was. Truth is,i was rite der in our sitting room. It was d sound of d TV he heard. He later realised it n stopped asking where i was. My boyfrnd is consumed wit insecurity. I know he is very faithful to me. And he does anything i want for me. D thing is am rily a very beautiful girl bt d problem is am confused abt my relationship. I kip telling myself dat he gets angry n jealous bcz he loves me. I dont know if am wrong. But i bilive he loves me so much and wld neva cheat. Wat am scared of is his anger, jealousy n all dat. Weneva he gets jealous he starts to breathe very fast n u wld hear is breathe. But he loves me. I nid ur advice..tnx

  15. Dear Tiwa, I know it is hard and you think this guy loves you but he really does not. He is just obsessed with u maybe bcos u are beautiful. Obsession is not love. One day it will turn to abuse if he thinks u are cheating or something. Do not let his so called attention fool you. You have seen these signs for one reason. Flee before u tie the knot. U are to marry ur friend and not someone u should be scared of or someone u will have to be watching ur back when u are talking to another guy. An obsessed guy can destroy ur life and the lives of people u care about. Pls learn from this people above and leave now that u can. Your partner should be able to trust u and vice versa. Perfect love casts out fear. I wish you the very best. Be wise

  16. The people that are blaming this poor deceased lady should be ashamed of themselves for perpetuating the victim blame game!

    Domestic violence is very much perpetuated by our patriarchal society, and is not helped by the lack of infrastructure in place to help women and children who are victims of this terrible situation. Very often the woman is left in a very confusing place after the first major incident, and she attempts to “fix” the situation in order to keep her family together. Think about it, how many times have you heard this: “Women need to be disciplined/kept in their place by their husbands?” Or, “What did she do to him that caused him to respond by beating her?” It’s ideas like that, including those proclaiming that the woman “endure” that help perpetuate this stupid behavior. Control (and entitlement) is at the bottom of every abusers mind, and they can use any and every means to maintain that control. Bear in mind that beatings(physical abuse) is not the only type of domestic abuse.

    To those “advising” ladies to “open their eyes” – Abusers very often present a Dr Jekyll-Mr Hyde personality. They’re often very charming, nice in public, but are totally different in private or to their significant other. They do this and it makes it difficult for the victim to disclose what’s happening to others because people don’t believe her. In entering relationships, sometimes, they wait as long as it takes to get their victim in their clutches, or rush things very very quickly to enter a committed relationships. Despite how unbelievable this might sound, its fairly common.

  17. One thing I know is that Titi will get justice. The wheel of Justice may be slow but sure. My eyes are filled with tears when I think of her little girl. May our Good Lord grant you eternal rest Titi. You are now resting in the bosom of our Lord where no harm will ever befall you again. Sun re o. God bless you Titi. Mrs Onuorah.

  18. This goes beyond spiritual dan physical.but if it is a delibrate intention whot goes around comes around den d husband must pay for it.may titilayo,s soul rest in peace and GOD’S guidance wil neva depart from her daughter

  19. This is a really sad story. As angry as we may all be at Akolade, let us still realise that there comes a stage in life where u are solely accountable and responsible for your actions. Titi had gotten to that stage. Why culdn’t she leave that hell of a marriage. That is a terrible way to end ur life. Just imagine standing before God and saying ” my self and my hubby had a disagreement, we fought and i died”. Naija ladies, let us grow past this hypocritical approach we have of marriage. im not against trying to make ur marriage work. But after trying,If it’s not working, it’s not working! Eggy

  20. Hmmn, i still find it so difficult to believe, apart from the fact that this incident happened in my area, i actually know Akolade Arowolo, we grew up in the same neighborhood back then in Ejigbio, attend d same church though a different parish, he was the zonal youth president at a point……i know him to be someone full of life, though everybody has their faults. What could have caused him to end up in this mess?because the Kolade i know wayback, doesn’t have the capacity to kill, he might have some weaknesses but not to kill. let’s look at it from different angles, * it could be spiritual, * it could be frustration * it could be Jealousy * he could be mentally deranged. First of all, we pray we don’t find ourselves in such situation because, right now, there are only 3 people that witnessed the whole incident, Kolade, Titilayo and God, Titilayo is dead, his other witness his God, no matter what he says, minds have been made up that he killed his wife. i’m trying to be realistic here…….for those of us blaming Titilayo, we don’t know what it takes to make some critical decisions, yes, if she had left earlier, she would be alive but we should all know that once there’s a child in marriage, its difficult to take some decisions, you don’t just think about yourself, you also think about your child. i’m sure she felt things might get better between them, that’s why she kept on giving it another CHANCE despite what she was going through, thought its quite unfortunate she didn’t live it through. All i pray for is that God should let the truth be known…but the truth is whatever might have been her fault, even if Kolade had found her on top of another man, she doesn’t deserve to DIE!!!, that’s where Kolade doesn’t have a case co nobody wants to the reason for such act. May TITI’s soul rest in peace and may God grant the family fortitude to bear the loss and may he guide and protect the baby all through her life.

  21. Its really sad bt wot has happened has happened so lets learn from it.This is d lesson- DONT IGNORE ANY SIGNS OF ABUSE. Cry out to those who will help u out or leave d relationship be it dating,courtship,co-habiting, or even marriage if ur health or life is in danger no matter who or what is involved.Any condition u think u’ll face outside of d relationship is far better than death. @TIWA,trust is d basis of any relationship.If der’s no trust, dt relationship is headed for d rocks. Its a matter of time,he’ll start to beat u&hurl objects at u ‘because he loves u’…u had beta not be a fool,stop endangering urself. Its bad enough dt u’re living as couple,u’re at his mercy so he can use u for anything. Also,its only a liar who doesnt always believe odas. Any relationship driven by any of this things wont work-sex,money,lies, guilt,romance,fear so wisdom is profitable to direct. Break off!

  22. Kolade is a guy i knw very well in st francis, my class mate. I was shoked about the story. I try to flash back if truly he could do that. I never see him as a killer becouse he his a calm person and lifely person. Anyway anything can happen. May the soul titi rest in perfect peace.

  23. Arowolo what you did is least expected thing from you. I thought u are a pastor. Why must you kill? You shall sure face the music.

  24. Arowolo must surely face the music if truly he kill his wife. When did he become a killer. Why did he allow his solitude state to make him kill his wife. A woman that as given birth to you. Is that what the bible says? I was always happy to the bible passage he post daily on facebook. But it so unfortunate that someone like arowolo (ex st francis student of science class) could be a killer. Titi arowolo may your soul rest perfect peace. To our ladies out thier not all that is glitter, is gold.

  25. I cannot believe that the author of this article has the audacity to make that list at the end, basically insinuating that the woman was to blame in this matter…First of all, no man shows his true colors before we walk down the AISLE (not isle) so cut that noise off right there. Second of all, do you know how bad it is to say you’re leaving your husband? Because he’s beating you? Please, Naija culture is naija culture. All family will say is don’t provoke him, stay in it for the children…blah blah blah…So don’t sit there and write such nonsense esp. when it’s posted online for the world to see…

    No one knows what a battered woman goes thru so don’t sit there, and out of joblessness, write such rubbish! #gbam and good night.

  26. mr arowolo or wateva his name is called deserves a perfect punishment which is a slow and painful death or sumtin similar 2wat his wife went tru or beta still parts of his body should be choped off bit by bit startin wt his pennis until its jst his neck.becaus he is no longer human and therefor doesnt deserve 2b alive

  27. I dunt no wat 2 cal i dnt tink tis is madnes l tnk he was posesd.com 2 tink of d wife culd even aford 2 pay a rent worth 1.3mil oh no oh no oh no oh no may her soul rest in perfct peace amen.

  28. Sorry 4 d husband action d devil was @ work in his life but d good God will deliver him & may d soul of d wife rest in peacd amen

  29. I am not saying what Kolade Arowolo did was right,but at d same time,i think there is no smoke without fire,something must hv went wrong,its more than physical but spiritual,lets all be factual,we all have domestic issues at home @ one point or the oda,he might have over reacted and being provoked into thiese,and might nt know it would get to these,Devil is a liar,i believe if he is killed,it wont wake up d dead,as it is only d dead that can give a vivid account of what transpired between them,it is well,i pray God will give titilayos father the fortitude to bear these great and huge loss.

  30. I am compelled to post a comment on this page.

    I live at Isolo but never heard of this story until I was almost a victim myself. Been married for 12years now but my husband and I had never been in peace for as little as a stretch of 3months. Different set of people, families, friend, neighours and even enemies had been involved in settling one form of quarrel or the other and at different places because he will never allow for peace even if I stay on my knees for 24hours unless people had to come in for which he will be the one to go and report and when anyone tells him the truth, he stop coming to you and look for another sympathizer until that one too hears my side of the story.
    There had been various cases of abuses until he introduced a new dimension to it 3years ago, going for weapon like kitchen knife barbeque fork just because I went for a birthday Party with a family friend which happened to be my first time out in 9years that we had been together for wish i properly took permission from him and even before confirming to my friend that I will attend; my mistake was being a good wife by calling to tell him we left late for the birthday. He even injured my breast during this period and I said enough was enough. This is a man that hardly will a weekend come without him attending one party or another all over the country and even in the company of former girl friend any in our marriage and I never blink an eye. I insisted the marriage had to be dissolved but trust family and “Holy Men of God” who intervened telling me I needed to consider my 2kids and what they tag “broken home” and again I was robed into staying put. I had to agree to have another baby for nature to take care of the injured breast after this settlement. November 26th 2011 would have been my last day on earth (with a 10months old baby). We had started our usual crises again and this time around I said it was over for good and gave him his wedding rings. He was coming home again (even though he spent 1 day in a week before), wasn,t attending church with the family again and has started attending festivity in his home town. Later, because I told him not to enter my room when none is at home because though he no longer comes home, he still has the key to our apartment and my room where he was not even sleeping in. He started going about telling people what is not and threatened someone must go and meet God in-front of my mother. To carryout his treat, he came home on that day started issuing curses on me as usual and for the first time I sent back those curses before I would no it, he seized my neck and hit my head against the wall several times. I tried to free my neck from his grip (my husband is 6ft and huge while i am 5 and smaller than him) and in that process caught one of his finger in my mouth. He left my neck and came after me almost immediately this time around with proper strangulation while sitting on my stomach/cum 2legs. I was almost gone and was already asking that God accept my soul with eyes shut cause I could struggle again. Thank God that my house help, second son (6year old where in the house) The house girl when she saw this ran out while I saw the shadow of my son on my face and open my eyes. I saw fear in his face and this energize me to put up a last struggle but was already too weak and I guess the boy thought I was dead. When he saw me open my eyes, that was when he started pushing his daddy saying Daddy please – the singular thing that God use to save my life!!! Because of this he threatened to take all my Children away from me and that I will never see any one of them again even with the people he knows in Lagos.

    As a result I had to run to a lawyer to file a divorce case for which everyone including some so called pastors are against me. They think I should wait for him to kill me first before taking such decision – because I should think of the children – What a world of hypocrite!!! People are blaming Titi for staying put even after several beating while they are saying that I should not mind the beating and even use of weapon. Honestly, my life is almost in shamble save for my job which is even another story entirely and part of the problem- because I helped one of my sister-in-law to the same company where I am working – thinking I could buy the mothers love and this lady friendship in other to have peace but which happens to be my biggest undoing.

    I guess, I am the most lonely woman on earth now and it is for my children I am living, otherwise I was almost considering suicide to satisfy people who wants me to remain in this.

    It not just a lesson to women but parents, families and the men of God.

    May titi soul rest in peace!!!

  31. Only God knows what actually transpired between the husband (Kolade) and his deceased wife. I pray for God protection.

  32. I know it can be tough leaving someone we have allowed to make us feel like the nothing that we can become. Staying in an abusive relationship to me means that I don’t value myself, or my children. All of who I am And who I am not is rapped up in this man. Women take your power back. Don’t stand for any and everything, you are worth so much more. These abusive &toxic men know that… They don’t love you , I don’t think that they are capable of true love anyways. We bend and bend for these men until we are broken, and rarely can we satisfy these men lest we pay with our own lives. Don’t do it, I beg of you. Remove the blinders and walk in freedom. Never give yourself to a possessive, double minded, double standard, nice in front or too others but when its just you two or at home the real evil is revealed, selfish. full of pride, self hate, never happy when your happy type of man… Run, Run as fast as you can.Most of the time it is worth the wait to find someone with your heart, your interest, and that shares the same views on marriage and life. Take our time and get to really know someone, I believe that how a man treats his mom or the lack/or absence of a mom is very important.We can’t be mom if she was not in the home, that’s a big mistake that us women make. The next thing to watch for with men is ,how he reacts when angry……..That may tell you everything you need to know. If marriage is ahead and his temper is easily aroused ,that rage may be turned toward you one day. Don’t fall for “oh I know I lost it but baby I would never do or say those things to you, you know how much i love you” Run, I would.

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