LoveNotes: there are 45Million Nigerians not married

45 Million Nigerians Not Married
October 20, 2009 

By Paul Dada

A total of 45,437,673 Nigerians have never been married in their lives. This is another report by the National Population Commission, and it is based on the 2006 nationwide population and Housing Census recently released.

The same report says828, 056 are separated, 692,910 are divorced while 1,900,402 are widowed.

There are however 48,186,740 married individuals in the country. The study population includes Nigerians who fall within the age of ten and above.

According to the NPC statistical tables, the number of unmarried men is higher than that of the women. While there are 25,969,723 men that are unmarried, their female counterparts are 19,467,950. The number of married men is 22,248,017 as against that of the married women which is 19,467,950.

Women who are separated from their husbands are more than men who are of the same status. Separated women are 495,239 but the number of separated men as given by the NPC is 341,782. There are 225,990 men that are divorced and 473,987 divorcees that are women. The number of widows also supercedes that of the widowers. The widows are 1,693,692 while the widowers whose number is far less than that of the widows are 227,978. There also more married women than men that are married. Married women are 26,312,916 but married men are 22,248,017.

Among the states that make up the federation, Lagos has the highest number of men who have never tied the nuptial knot, with 3,481,452 still single.  Kano follows Lagos as the state with the second highest number of unmarried people. It has 2,456,742 unmarried individuals. Rivers is next to Kano with 2, 152,267 unmarried people.

In the same report, the NPC says that there are 28,900,492 households in Nigeria. The commission classifies the households under regular household, institutional household, Institutional household, homeless persons, nomadic household, transient persons and fishing and hunting households. The regular household is that has one of its members as a recognised head and functions as a social unit. There are 28,197,085 of such in the country.

Institutional household are those in which the members have no collective head. They are 382,880. Homeless persons who sleep in public places such as parks and under the bridges are regarded as households and they are 47,674. Homeless households are those who have lost their houses to a disaster or demolition. These are 38,825.

There are 176, 046 nomadic households, 22,932 transient persons households and 35,050 fishing and hunting household. This brings the total number of households to 28,900,492.

source: click here

There are 3,481,452 SINGLE men in Lagos – Ladies where are you.

The photo on the left is the latest treat of the Unification Church in South Korea – 40,000 couples around the world in a mass wedding.

the question for today is: why hasn’t any pastor / any religious leader organized mass weddings in Nigeria? Or perhaps the God that ministers to religious leaders in other countries does not minister to our religious leaders? or maybe we are just more spiritual in Nigeria.

With reference to the typical Nigerian “this is how marriage is done” wahala that separates Nigerias’ North, East, South and West, the problem is that each part believes their own tradition/s are the best, and a compulsory ‘must’ for other party; else he doesn’t marry their daughter, else she doesn’t marry their son. Sometimes, the pressure is placed on the parents of the couple, who are expected to pass it on to their kids who do not understand the definition of the “Nigerian Village Mentality”.

And with a lot of marriage-this-is-how-to-do-it’s looking ridiculous, especially for those of us who grew up with yahoo and google, wedding-ceremony is the next big-wahala: a major problem needing a major prayer request and major attention. I never fail to wonder which is of more importance for the average Nigerian: the wedding day or the married life. In fact, a lot of couples get into major debts just for one day in their lives. With the little research I’ve done:  1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11 and 12(I wish), sometimes I feel it would be better just to say the ‘I do’ among a lot of other people and get on with a quiet life.

question: why are our African mothers often forgotten

 

First there was Miwiru. Its not known who came before Miriwu. Miriwu sired Sigoma, Sigoma sired Owiny, Owiny sired Kisodhi, Kisodhi sired Ogelo, Ogelo sired Otondi, Otondi sired Obongo, Obongo sired Okoth, and Okoth sired Opiyo. The women who bore them, their name are forgotten, for that was the way of our people.

The above is a paragraph in Chapter 19 of Barrack Obama’s Dreams of My Father. Barrack Obama, his brothers and sisters listen to Granny tell them the stories of their father and grandfather.

Reading the statement makes me wonder: how true!

• why are the names of our African mothers forgotten when its time to list geneaologies, when its time to trace one’s roots, 
• why are the names of our African mothers forgotten when its time to give credit for a good child, for a great accomplishment, 
• and generally, when we talk about ‘who gave birth to whom’, why does it have to always be the Father.
• why is the average African the child of his Father, not of his mother?

 

 

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• question: has God forsaken Africa? midnight rants

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Babarinde Adetuludemi impregnates his fathers wife

Son Impregnates Father’s Wife
August 18, 2009

By Oluwole Adeboye

A 29-year old man has impregnated his stepmother (father’s wife).

The man, identified as Babarinde Adetuludemi, owns a shop at Computer Village, Ikeja, where he sells mobile phones and computer software.

The woman, Mrs. Benita Adetuludemi, 33, and Babarinde both reside at 1, Adetuludemi Close, Ejigbo, Lagos, with Hezekiah Adetuludemi, the woman’s husband, who is 53 years old.

P.M.News investigation revealed that one of the tenants in the compound had noticed the relationship between Benita and Babarinde and had informed the father, but he did not believe it. However, on Sunday evening, there was a quarrel which resulted in an argument between the woman and her husband, during which she revealed that the six-month old pregnancy she is carrying is his son’s.

They dragged themselves to the police station where an officer was asked to investigate the matter. In the course of the investigation, our reporter accompanied the cop to the couple’s home where the three of them spoke on the matter.

“According to Benita, why won’t I be pregnant for his son? Whenever I asked him for sex, he was always tired. And because I love the young man, I allowed him to do it. The worst thing is to order me to pack out of his house and I will keep the baby as my own gain.”

Babarinde on his part said: “I just noticed that one day she gave me Ogbono soup with fufu to eat and thereafter, she came romancing me right in my bedroom, while my father was in his own bedroom. We ended up having sex and it later became a regular thing.”

Mr. Hezekiah said: “I am not surprised that he impregnated my wife, because his mother was flirting to the extent that I caught her pants down in a hotel with her sugar daddy. And she moved out on her own.

“He must have inherited this attitude from his mom. When a child is wayward and flirting, check the mother. What a painful thing that she openly confessed to me that the pregnancy belongs to my only child.”

After listening to their statements, the cop left, saying they should sort themselves out since it was a civil matter.

source: http://thepmnews.com/2009/08/18/son-impregnates-fathers-wife

and here is a comment from the source which I believe summarizes it all:

I DEY

How the old man go marry that kind young woman wen im know sey im no too get stamina? If regular and sufficient income no dey, wife go endure; if regular work not dey, wife go endure; if regular and adequate feeding no dey, wife go endure; but if regular ***** no dey, my people, endurance no dey that one o.

Interesting story indeed, but hey na true talk, body no be firewood ehn. This one na real Babarinde.

And please, is there any relationship between Ogbono-soup and love-making. I heard a gist about Ogbono-soup’s potentials sometime ago.