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Womens rights: Sexual Exploitation at Skye Bank Plc

November 23, 2009 mypenmypaper Leave a comment

Sexual Exploitation at Skye Bank Plc: Speaking of Women’s rights – by Ike Apia

If Mrs. Ekwunife L. Akabogu failed in her duties as a Priority Sales Support Officer for Skye Bank Plc, it was not for lack of effort. But if anything, she indeed succeeded in her new found role of hell-raiser with a sexual harassment and exploitation lawsuit against her former employers that have been giving the management of Skye Bank Plc white nights, as they grapple with damage control over what now seems to be a public relations disaster for the bank.  

Love or hate her, there is no denying that her story exposes the hellacious ordeal of several Nigerian women who are coerced into engaging in shameful dehumanizing sexual escapades in a desperate effort to break the glass ceiling to meet unrealistic goals and expectations set for them by heartless mean-spirited men without any moral scruples.  

The facts of her story as contained in her lawsuit against Skye bank Plc make for interesting reading, but she is not alone. Mrs. Akabogu is amongst the hundreds of thousands of Nigerian women who face workplace discrimination and harassment simply because they refuse to put their bodies at the disposal of their employers.   
 

Imagine hiring someone simply because you intend to exploit her physical attributes in your unbridled quest for financial gain. If this sounds familiar, then consider a married woman, who is being pressured to employ her “bottom power” to rein in big clients like contractors and politicians for Skye Bank Plc. She is seeking N1 billion in general and punitive damages from Skye bank and some of its top executives who are named as co-defendants in the suit. 

The end justifies the means, some might say, but not when an institution like a bank; in this case Skye Bank is so desperate to build its market share, to the extent that it should be indulging in such unorthodox and perverted practices.Upon being hired as Priority Sales Support Officer for Skye Bank Plc, in May 2009, Mrs. Akabogu was posted to the Enugu branch, ostensibly on a six-month internship.

Because the terms of her job description were vague and ambiguous, the bank sought to use her as a sex bait for its potential high value clients like local PDP bigwig, Chief Christian Uba, who was on the bank’s radar screens as a potential target. It did not help that Mrs. Akabogu had a personal relationship with the said Chief Uba which Skye Bank attempted to exploit in their grand scheme of “capturing” the man at all cost, including forcing Mrs. Akabogu into bed with him, in a quid pro quo arrangement involving sexual patronage by Mrs. Akabogu that will open the door for Chief Uba to become a Skye Bank client. 

The Skye bank retaliation was predictable when Mrs. Akabogu rejected the indecent proposal by her boss. She was relegated to a more inconsequential position within the bank, where she was maligned and sidelined and treated with scorn and subjected to all kinds of humiliation from her superiors and co-workers, simply because she stuck her guns and upheld her dignity.  

Even though she had succeeded in bringing in sixteen new genuine clients worth an estimated N6 million, management of these accounts were assigned to other colleagues and she was given no credit for her efforts. As if that was not enough, she was denied even the basic requisite facilities to effectively carry out her duties – no office; no work station; no computer; no vehicle and was permanently under stress and pressure, as he bosses missed no opportunity to remind her that she was an under-achiever, who was virtually on her way out of the job for failing to do what is expected of her. 

According to Skye Bank policy, Mrs. Akabogu’s refusal to exchange sexual favors to meet the bank’s target client benchmarks was seen as an act of betrayal by Mrs. Akabogu, whose decision to uphold her matrimonial vows was viewed as an act of  disloyalty by the Skye bank hierarchy. The message Skye bank was sending to Mrs. Akabogu as clear: he who pays the piper calls the tune and if you want to work here, better play by our rules or quit. Otherwise stated, her loyalty should be with Skye bank, and not her husband.

She was subsequently assigned to manage a new campaign of proximity banking; taking the services to the customers wherever they may be found. To which end, she was urged to go to certain local hotels frequented by the rich and wealthy, where Skye bank hoped, she would entice some of the men with he beauty. Mrs. Akabogu, according to the lawsuit, was directed by her boss to wear expensive perfumes, short skirts and other sexually inviting outfits to arrest public attention. To crown it all, she was given an open check to use the Zodiac hotel, as part of contingency arrangements, should the need arise.

The pressure to deliver and the stressful nature of her work environment had a huge impact on her health, which began to degenerate, until she suffered a nervous break down and passed out on two occasions and was rushed to the hospital. But Skye bank officials were heartless and refused to acknowledge that her blackouts were the result of stress, arising from emotional devastation and the psychologically traumatizing pressure deadline driven assignments she was being forced to undertake, against her own valuesb.

When she eventually returned to work from the hospital, it appears, Skye bank officials had come to the conclusion that they hired the wrong horse for the job and decided to force her to quit. It was therefore a contrived policy by Skye bank to make her working conditions so unbearable; she was the target of all kinds of unrestrained vituperations and snide remarks and when matters came to a head with an ultimatum that she opens ten new accounts every week, Mrs. Akabogu was forced to resign her job.

She has proceeded to file a lawsuit No. E/386/09 in the High Court of Enugu State of Nigeria between (Plaintiff) Mrs. Ekwunife L. Akabogu vs, (Defendents) Skye Bank Plc, Nkolika Okoli, Chinedu Oguejiofor, Donatus Ugwuoke, Dr. Charles Udeogo, Maureen Okoye. Mrs. Ababogu seeks N1 billion in damages from Skye bank.

She has also petitioned the Nigerian Human Rights Commission and the Economic and Financial Crimes Commission (EFCC), asking for an independent investigation into the practice by banks and other service industry institutions wherein women are being forced into involuntary prostitution as a condition sine qua non to keep their jobs. It is a shame.   

Speaking about human rights, for Mrs. Akabogu, it has been hell on two legs. She was taken on a jolly ride to the realm of moral degeneracy by unscrupulous Skye bank bosses who suffer from incurable money-mindedness and will stop at nothing in their quest for personal gain. Fortunately, she will get her day in court where Skye Bank Plc will be made to face their own music.

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When a married woman is pressured to defile her marriage bed because of bank work, the situation is critical.

LoveNotes: there are 45Million Nigerians not married

October 21, 2009 mypenmypaper 1 comment

45 Million Nigerians Not Married
October 20, 2009
 

By Paul Dada

A total of 45,437,673 Nigerians have never been married in their lives. This is another report by the National Population Commission, and it is based on the 2006 nationwide population and Housing Census recently released.

The same report says828, 056 are separated, 692,910 are divorced while 1,900,402 are widowed.

There are however 48,186,740 married individuals in the country. The study population includes Nigerians who fall within the age of ten and above.

According to the NPC statistical tables, the number of unmarried men is higher than that of the women. While there are 25,969,723 men that are unmarried, their female counterparts are 19,467,950. The number of married men is 22,248,017 as against that of the married women which is 19,467,950.

Women who are separated from their husbands are more than men who are of the same status. Separated women are 495,239 but the number of separated men as given by the NPC is 341,782. There are 225,990 men that are divorced and 473,987 divorcees that are women. The number of widows also supercedes that of the widowers. The widows are 1,693,692 while the widowers whose number is far less than that of the widows are 227,978. There also more married women than men that are married. Married women are 26,312,916 but married men are 22,248,017.

Among the states that make up the federation, Lagos has the highest number of men who have never tied the nuptial knot, with 3,481,452 still single.  Kano follows Lagos as the state with the second highest number of unmarried people. It has 2,456,742 unmarried individuals. Rivers is next to Kano with 2, 152,267 unmarried people.

In the same report, the NPC says that there are 28,900,492 households in Nigeria. The commission classifies the households under regular household, institutional household, Institutional household, homeless persons, nomadic household, transient persons and fishing and hunting households. The regular household is that has one of its members as a recognised head and functions as a social unit. There are 28,197,085 of such in the country.

Institutional household are those in which the members have no collective head. They are 382,880. Homeless persons who sleep in public places such as parks and under the bridges are regarded as households and they are 47,674. Homeless households are those who have lost their houses to a disaster or demolition. These are 38,825.

There are 176, 046 nomadic households, 22,932 transient persons households and 35,050 fishing and hunting household. This brings the total number of households to 28,900,492.

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There are 3,481,452 SINGLE men in Lagos – Ladies where are you.

The photo on the left is the latest treat of the Unification Church in South Korea – 40,000 couples around the world in a mass wedding.

the question for today is: why hasn’t any pastor / any religious leader organized mass weddings in Nigeria? Or perhaps the God that ministers to religious leaders in other countries does not minister to our religious leaders? or maybe we are just more spiritual in Nigeria.

With reference to the typical Nigerian “this is how marriage is done” wahala that separates Nigerias’ North, East, South and West, the problem is that each part believes their own tradition/s are the best, and a compulsory ‘must’ for other party; else he doesn’t marry their daughter, else she doesn’t marry their son. Sometimes, the pressure is placed on the parents of the couple, who are expected to pass it on to their kids who do not understand the definition of the “Nigerian Village Mentality”.

And with a lot of marriage-this-is-how-to-do-it’s looking ridiculous, especially for those of us who grew up with yahoo and google, wedding-ceremony is the next big-wahala: a major problem needing a major prayer request and major attention. I never fail to wonder which is of more importance for the average Nigerian: the wedding day or the married life. In fact, a lot of couples get into major debts just for one day in their lives. With the little research I’ve done:  1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11 and 12(I wish), sometimes I feel it would be better just to say the ‘I do’ among a lot of other people and get on with a quiet life.

LoveNotes: what is the difference between Church wedding and Court wedding

October 14, 2009 mypenmypaper 1 comment

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The above picture is sourced from this article on PM News.

I would rather not dwell on details of infidelity of the couple accusing each other,  but this prompts some thoughts.

In Nigeria, at least from my own observation, information etc., the various levels of marriage are:

  • Introduction – families of couples get to know each other,
  • Engagement – traditional wedding ceremony, dowry payment, etc,
  • Religious (Christian / Islamic) wedding.

A fourth which could take the place of a religious wedding is the Court wedding, meaning a couple could either do one of (religious wedding, court wedding) or both, as they please – after getting engaged.

Please note, the above is just my own information.

My questions are these:

1) In matters of seniority, heirarchy and validity which comes first, which carries more weight: Religious or Court wedding? or do the two entities carry equal weight? If so, where do we place conflicts of interests.

2) In terms of importance (as in first things first), I am informed that there can’t be a Religious or Court wedding without a traditional wedding – as in religious organizations / the court would actually ask/demand a confirmation from the couple and family members, that all traditional rites have been fulfilled by the couple. Please, how true, false, necessary or unnecessary is this?

3) (a) can a court dissolve a marriage between a couple who did not do an initial court wedding? or (b) can a religious organization dissolve a marriage between a couple who were wedded only in the court of law? why or why not.

4) Lastly, why is the marriage certificate usually given to the bride. I am of the information that its her sole-property. I suppose there should be two copies, one for the husband and another for the wife.